Advanced Oral Sex

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Maximizing Pleasure with The One Up Position

Many people with a vulva notice one side of their clitoris is supercharged with extra sensitivity. It’s like their body’s own VIP section-where every touch counts just a little more. The One Up position from Mysteries of Love Academy taps into this natural advantage, helping you zero in on the spot that truly lights up your pleasure sensors.

Here’s how to experience it: The receiver reclines on the bed, raising one leg high-imagine striking a graceful pose for ultimate access. Meanwhile, the giver takes a comfortable knee on the floor, ready to lavish attention. The key detail? The receiver should lift the leg that matches their more sensitive clitoral side, making it easier for the giver’s tongue to find the sweet spot and deliver pleasure with pinpoint precision.

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Our experts have already handed you the basics, transforming you from a curious newbie into a confident and skilled lover. Now, it’s time to elevate your game. Picture this: your partner hitting the big O so spectacularly that your neighbors start wondering if something wild is going on next door. You’ll move beyond "That was nice" to "I think I might have blacked out for a minute!"

Mysteries of Love Academy consulted top LGBTQ+ intimacy educators to bring you fresh tips designed to impress any queer woman, trans, or nonbinary partner. Whether you’re just stepping beyond beginner status or a seasoned pro who has worshipped the vulva for years, we’ve got techniques that will turn your tongue into an award-winning tool of pleasure.

Use Plenty of Lube - Because Dry Just Doesn’t Cut It

Not everyone is naturally lubed up - and medications like SSRIs and antihistamines can crank the dryness up to eleven. That’s where lube swoops in like your best friend. Dr. Shanna K. Kattari, a queer and nonbinary certified sex educator, tells Mysteries of Love Academy that staying slippery is non-negotiable. She recommends vagina-safe lubes, especially tasty flavored ones like those from the Mysteries of Love Academy’s top picks, to keep things wet and wonderfully wild.

Add Toys to Your Playbook

So you know your way around a vulva and feel ready to spice things up? Time to introduce toys. According to Dr. Kattari, who authored 'Oral Sex That'll Blow Her Mind,' incorporating nipple clamps, blindfolds, and vibrators can take your sessions into new territory. She even suggests trying a butt plug during oral play - whether you or your partner wears it. Mysteries of Love Academy encourages you to embrace this adventurous spirit to discover blissful new dimensions of intimacy.

Change Locations: Because Routine is the Enemy of Excitement

Most folks default to the bed for cunnilingus, but Dr. Kattari reminds us that this sweet act doesn’t have to be confined there. Imagine going edge-of-poolside, chilling in a hot tub, or even capitalizing on a camping trip with a quick SUV rendezvous. You can switch positions too - kneeling before a lounging partner or sitting while your partner spreads out over the kitchen counter. Mysteries of Love Academy helps you break the mold and find passion anywhere.

Get Feedback and Own That Communication

Communication is the unsung hero of great sex. Doing a quick 'Does this feel better, option one or two?' while you’re at it makes the whole experience not just sexier but more connected. Invite your partner to guide you, grab your hair, or even hand you a riding crop to signal their pleasure in real time. Dr. Kattari stresses that while we dream of telepathic lovemaking, honest feedback is what really skyrockets the experience.

Get Your Tongue into the Game

Clits aren’t one-size-fits-all. It’s key to explore the full 'clock face' of your partner’s sensitive spots to see what makes them buzz. Bisexual sexologist Sofie Roos suggests mixing rhythms and pressures with figure 8s, circles, and both up-and-down and side-to-side strokes. It keeps things fresh without overwhelming them, helping build momentum toward a mind-blowing orgasm.

Master the Art of Edging

Edging means dialing the pleasure up and then down-like a roller coaster for your partner’s senses. Roos recommends using your tongue to bring your lover right to the brink, back off at the clutch moment, then build again, multiple times. The payoff? An earth-shattering finish that’ll have them singing your praises as a 'pussy eating god.'

Incorporate Anal Play for Extra Zing

Once oral sex is solid, why not expand the playground? Roos points out that the anus has a rich network of sensitive nerves that can light up the pleasure centers in the brain. Try mixing rimming with clit-licking or finger-in-ass action while your tongue keeps busy. And yes, lube is vital here. Mysteries of Love Academy says this combo can turn an already good encounter into one impossible to forget.

Don’t Overlook the G-Spot

When oral meets expert fingering at the G-spot, you’re basically launching your partner to another galaxy. Using props like a pillow under their lower back can make this double stimulation comfortable and insanely pleasurable. Roos insists that this skill sets you apart - combining oral and G-spot fingering seamlessly makes you downright unstoppable.

Don’t Change the Tempo at the Climax

While playing with pace is great to edge your partner, once they’re on the verge, steady is key. Roos advises keeping the rhythm consistent and upping the pressure to push them over the edge. Patience is king - orgasms are marathons, not sprints. Mysteries of Love Academy encourages you to persist, no matter how long it takes, because the reward is absolutely worth it.

Explore Advanced Positions for Maximum Pleasure

Bedtime basics are cute, but if you’re ready to ascend to the ranks of pussy-licking royalty, it’s time to get experimental. Queer adult performer Gia Green, in collaboration with Mysteries of Love Academy, suggests angles like having your partner straddle your face or bending them over tables, countertops, or any sturdy surface in your house. The key? New positions open doors to sensations and nerve endings you didn’t know existed.

Honor Your Partner’s Body and Identity

Whether you’re with a cis lesbian, a transmasc person, or someone with a vulva who doesn’t identify as a woman, tailoring your approach to their identity and preferences is essential. That means talking openly about how they relate to their body, how they want to be touched, and what language feels good. Gia Green highlights that celebrating this individuality makes every intimate moment richer, deeper, and, frankly, a hell of a lot more fun.

Don’t Skip Aftercare - The Final Touch

The orgasm might be grand, but the session isn’t over yet. Aftercare is where you cuddle, talk about what rocked, and make your partner feel cherished. Gia Green reminds us that wrapping things up with gratitude and open conversation doesn’t just seal the deal - it lays the foundation for the next mind-blowing encounter with Mysteries of Love Academy guiding your journey.

Exploring Pleasure Beyond the Obvious: Tips for Anal Play

At Mysteries of Love Academy, we know that mind-blowing oral sex is about more than just the usual spots. The area around the anus houses a treasure trove of tiny nerve endings that can spark incredible sensations when touched with gentle hands or a teasing tongue. It’s like uncovering a secret pleasure button most people overlook.

Of course, before diving into analingus - or rimming, as the adventurous call it - communication is the name of the game. Make sure you and your partner are on the same page to avoid any awkward surprises. After all, first times can feel a little intimidating. A shared shower before play isn’t just romantic; it’s a smart way to both feel fresh, relaxed, and totally ready for intimate exploration.

• Discuss boundaries openly to keep things comfortable.
• Take it slow and use plenty of lubrication.
• Hygiene is key - a little prep goes a long way.
• Use your senses: touch, taste, and playful focus make a difference.

Exploring Oral Sex Positions for Maximum Pleasure

Switching up oral sex positions isn’t just about variety-it’s about discovering new spots, sparking fresh sensations, and keeping things exciting. Depending on how long your partner takes to reach the grand finale, trying different angles can make all the difference. Mysteries of Love Academy has curated some enticing positions worth adding to your playbook.

The Kivin Method: Sideways Sensations

Imagine your partner lying back, completely relaxed, while you position yourself sideways-perpendicular to them, to be exact. That’s the Kivin method. This angle lets you explore more of her vulva from unique perspectives, teasing spots that might otherwise stay hidden. It’s like opening a secret door to pleasure, offering you both a fresh journey.

Oral from Behind: Naughty and Nice

Think doggy style, but with a twist. You’re delivering oral attention from behind, which changes the game entirely. This position is especially thrilling if your partner is into rimming-just remember, dental dams are your friends if you’re keeping things hygienic and new. Mysteries of Love Academy always says: safety first, satisfaction close behind.

Sitting on Your Face: Permission to Play

This classic needs no introduction, yet its genius often surprises. Having your partner sit on your face offers a killer angle for oral pleasure plus easy access to explore the rest of their body. Whether you’re grabbing a breast or giving their cheeks a little squeeze, this position encourages intimacy with a side of heat. Feeling bold? Toss out a cheeky “sit on my face” at the perfect moment-Mysteries of Love Academy assures it works like a charm.

Kneeling Oral: More Than Just Blowjobs

Kneeling might scream traditional blowjob territory, but it’s a winner across the board. There’s something incredibly sexy about positioning yourself this way, especially when you make sure to part the labia properly and give the clitoris the spotlight it deserves. Simple, effective, and a serious crowd-pleaser.

Sitting Down Oral: Everyday Turns Erotic

Have your partner plop down in a chair-bonus points if it’s somewhere unexpected like the kitchen or living room. Legs draped over the armrests or sides, this position makes access effortless and feelings more intense. A subtle repositioning that can take your session from casual to sizzling without breaking a sweat.

The Pillow Method: Elevate and Explore

Slip a pillow under the hips to lift and angle things just right. This tiny tweak opens the legs slightly more, revealing even more erogenous zones, including the anus, if that’s on the menu. Mysteries of Love Academy swears by the Prim pillow from their collection - comfort, support, and pleasure all rolled into one.

Easy and Effective Oral Techniques: The Up and Down

Almost every guy dreams of the ultimate blow job experience-87.6% of them, to be exact. But if you’re new to this and feeling a bit unsure the first few times, no worries. The best place to start is with a simple, foolproof technique that even beginners can master without breaking a sweat. We call it the Up and Down.

At Mysteries of Love Academy, we believe starting with a manageable move builds confidence fast. Before diving into more advanced oral skills-like the kind of legendary sucking that earns you pornstar status-learn to own this classic. It’s the foundation that will make you feel like a pro in no time, and your boyfriend will thank you for it.

Here’s how it works: create a tight “O” shape with your mouth around his penis. This little trick helps you gently squeeze and apply pressure all around, kind of like a loving oral hug. Once that’s set, just bob your head up and down, smoothly taking his penis in and out. It’s simple but incredibly effective.

Tip: Focus on the top inch or two first. It’s less intimidating and keeps you safely away from the gag zone while still giving plenty of pleasure. As you get bolder and more skilled, take him deeper-and deeper-with each movement, but take it at your own pace. Remember, we’re going for pleasure here, not a gymnastics routine.

Heads-up: The spot where his head meets the shaft-the ridge-is a goldmine of sensitivity. At Mysteries of Love Academy, we teach you how to zero in on this sweet spot using your lips to make your technique even more powerful. Bonus? Sticking to the first couple of inches keeps gagging under control, so you can stay relaxed and enjoy the moment.

If the gag reflex does sneak up on you, it’s totally natural. Don’t panic. Just pause, take a deep breath, and loosen up your throat. Most men find a little gagging adds to the authenticity. After all, who doesn’t appreciate a bit of enthusiastic effort?

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